life’s troubles…

Hmmmm….What’s life without trouble? It makes you appreciate the calm good times, I guess?! Having had a major disagreement with my daughter-in-law I have been spending a lot of time pondering confrontation, argument, parenting, and just life’s ups and downs in general. In a nutshell I spoke out about the way a disciplinary situation was handled or mishandled [IMHO] involving my five year old grandson[who did not feel the need to put his shoes on the correct feet before going to pre-school that day] and it escalated to angry words and evolved to total breakdown in communication with my daughter-in-law. I was wrong to allow my temper to get the best of me and not discuss my feelings on the issues in a calm and adult manner. She only ”heard” my criticism of her mothering skills. She retaliated with bitter ammunition of past events and shifting of the blame to anyone other than herself. As it stands now, we have zero communication between the two of us. My son handled the situation as best as he could . My only regret in his regard is that he never bothered to ask my side of the story nor discuss the situation with me other than to make arrangements for my departure from Wichita post haste. I know he is in a difficult position and I do not feel any anger toward him just some disappointment. I am far from perfect and I know I can be critical and judgemental and when I get angry I let people know it. I said my peace to her and offered my apologies for losing my temper and raising my voice and if she cannot find her way back to a more reasonable relationship I am willing to accept that. I keep the boys in my thoughts and prayers everyday and they live in my heart every moment. I will not allow one ugly day to ruin my memories of the four months I was privileged to spend with them in Wichita. Love you Joshua and Brenen.